Pointless post this morning.

Big debate going on in a group I’m in this morning on the acronyms.

It is being said that we, the BS (betrayed spouse) need to stop calling the OW, OW.

We need to call her HW, they say.

Home wrecker.

This ignites a ridiculously huge keyboard battle.

Absolutely not, most say. The cheating spouse gets that title, they are the ones that wrecked the home.

No way, others say. She knew we were married, she knew we had kids, she spread her legs for him anyway. She wrecked our home.

I read the comments as they go on and on, then find myself bursting out laughing. Someone comes in with, “let’s drop the whole OW and HW and call them what they are, a THOT.”

That hoe over there.

Ok 👌. I’m good with THOT.

-Who did wreck the home?

My husband.

-Who helped him?


-Who is the other woman in my marriage?


-Who is that hoe over there?


-Who is that other hoe over there?

My husband. He can be a thot, too. Why not.

-Who am I?

Betrayed spouse.

All acronyms so far are correct.

She DID know about me. She DID know about our kids, our family. Yes, he 100% lied to her.

He wrecked the home.

But she knew.

Maybe as betrayed spouses, there is a comfort in the acronyms used in the world of infidelity. It’s easier to tweet, it’s shorter to type and maybe we just like to call it as we individually see it.

My husband cheated. To me, he is The Cheater.

That’s not all he is, but that’s what he did, and that’s what I associate him as during the time he did it.

Toni is anything I can come up with. But she is also the other woman in this story and she did help wreck our home. To me, it will never matter that “she was not the one who married me and made promises to me.”

The bitch had her role in this and that’s that.

She is and always will be a THOT.

I also think long debates and arguments over silly things like this help.

Takes your mind off what actually went down.

About Walking the Journey

I'm a wife of 22+ years, a mother of three, a sister, a friend. This is my journey on healing after an affair. I'm full of sarcasm, humor and truth. Sharing the journey after my husbands affair, I'm hoping to rid myself of the demons and get a ticket out of crazy town that I'm living in.
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7 Responses to HW, OW, THOT…

  1. Alice says:

    I was also involved in a twitter war Friday. I’ve tries to walk the fence with many posts. We try to be supportive of each other. We (us betrayed spouses) try to find some humor in our situations. To get through the day. Yes I’m nosy. Yes I have opinions. I would NEVER tell a betrayed spouse or a cheater what they needed to do. How they need to think. Words they need to use. Twitter is so easy. If you don’t like what someone’s saying – block them. You don’t have to be in any particular group. You can follow endless interests. I get wanting the perspective from the other side of our equation. I asked my first counselor if I could borrow one of her workbooks for the cheating spouse. She quickly told me that would not help me for YEARS. It would be upsetting. It would inhibit my recovery. If a cheater is truly sorry and is doing everything they can to repair the relationship good for you. But no one on this planet has the right to tell me what I can call someone or how to feel about anyone. Especially the THOT.

  2. Ainsobriety says:

    My kids use the word thot. It definitely Applies to anyone who knowingly has sex with someone married. And the cheater.

  3. Ainsobriety says:

    I don’t like homewrecker as my home and kids are intact. We’ve just reduced by one member.

  4. I just call em whatever comes to mind at the moment.

  5. foreverchanged2014 says:

    Any woman who engages inappropriately with a married man is a whore in my book. I do like THOT though too.

  6. ABSOLUTELY LOVE this post!!!! THOT it is!!!

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