Category Archives: gaslighting

I often think…

…What if he had chosen her? Sometimes I find myself daydreaming. I know many that I follow are in that boat. Their partner left for the other person. The side piece. The homewrecker. But that is not my story. Mine … Continue reading

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Shattered

I read a blog post recently that was deep. Her style of writing is unique and so heartfelt you can feel it in your chest. She wrote something a few weeks ago that just left me stunned for several minutes. … Continue reading

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Quiet.

I feel like I’ve stepped back in my life. That probably doesn’t make sense… how do I describe it… more like I’ve stepped backwards, or to the side and am just observing. I got some satisfying revenge on the OW … Continue reading

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He wrote a song for her.

I needed to find something in his studio. There was a stack of notebooks I was looking for and one in particular I needed. I wasn’t affair digging, I also don’t know why I feel guilty and feel the need … Continue reading

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Smoky mountains and the OW.

I went to see my Dad. I have not seen him in 2 1/2 years. I love being home, but I struggle being near him and in all honesty, I may share DNA with him, but he and I do … Continue reading

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Random thoughts.

I think I’ve given up on the notebook. The whole thing pisses me off. I have no respect for him any longer. I could have… I truly think I could have had he been honest and open from the start. … Continue reading

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Christmas.

Trigger season is upon me. Yay. It actually pisses me off. I’m done with this. So today is the date he walked out and left us. Just scooted on by with his laundry baskets filled and left me on the … Continue reading

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Lies.

I was outside feeding my feral cat, Oscar, this morning. He’s a cutie for sure. I’ve been working on him daily since he showed up in April. He remains as feral as he can be though. He has finally allowed … Continue reading

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Waves.

Waves. Roller coasters. Whatever it may be, I find myself just riding it. I had to step away from social media for the last couple of weeks. I’ve had to snooze people I consider very good friends and a handful … Continue reading

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Feels like the wind got knocked out of me.

I was in fourth grade. We had just moved from Florida to Pasadena, Md. I had just started a new school. Again. I was out with some neighbor kids and we were all climbing a tree. I made it to … Continue reading

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