Category Archives: homewrecker

I often think…

…What if he had chosen her? Sometimes I find myself daydreaming. I know many that I follow are in that boat. Their partner left for the other person. The side piece. The homewrecker. But that is not my story. Mine … Continue reading

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Stupid condoms. ūü§¨

I clearly seem to have lost complete control over myself at this point. I’m not thinking, I’m not thinking past doing dumb shit and knowing there will be consequences. Maybe it’s mercury retrograde. Maybe it is. Maybe I’m insane. Maybe … Continue reading

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All over the place.

Yeah, my head is all over the place. I hate Valentine’s Day. Hate it even more now. One of the questions I asked him recently, only in the book, was about Valentine’s Day. I’ve asked many times. He admitted at … Continue reading

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Apology – my rant

I think I figured out how to repost… I’ve never done it ūüė¨ But Tearing at the Fabric wrote a post that got me thinking as she always does ūüíě I’ve thought about this a lot. I wouldn’t mind an … Continue reading

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Waves.

Waves. Roller coasters. Whatever it may be, I find myself just riding it. I had to step away from social media for the last couple of weeks. I’ve had to snooze people I consider very good friends and a handful … Continue reading

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I scrolled waaay back…

I’ve been here and on twitter for 4 years now. I wrote my first entry and created my twitter account on the same day. I was nervous hitting “publish” and I was nervous going on twitter anonymously. I have been … Continue reading

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Did not have my consent.

I was scrolling through My twitter feed a few weeks ago. I can’t find the tweet now, as I wanted her permission to repost it here, I also wanted to retweet it, but I don’t follow her and twitters algorithm … Continue reading

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Thoughts out of nowhere.

I’m ranting and raving here. Kind of going off the rails in my head. Oh, not really kinda. My train is completely off the rails. Hang on. I’m laying in bed last night, watching some dumb show about singers pairing … Continue reading

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I went down activity lane

April 24th will be four years since discovering he had an affair. So I’m quickly approaching that mark. I don’t know. In those four years there’s been 4 therapists, a thousand books, articles, videos all laying down the 3-5 year … Continue reading

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On this day four years ago…

Well, it was actually the 3rd. 9/3/2015. Why do dates stick in my head like glue? He took me to see A Walk in the Woods that night. We hadn’t seen a movie together in a long time. This one … Continue reading

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