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Facebook memories

I look at them. For me, I had to stop the memories for a while, but I’ve turned them back on. I face them head on now and own the fact that I pretty much post for the memories. It’s … Continue reading

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He wrote a song for her.

I needed to find something in his studio. There was a stack of notebooks I was looking for and one in particular I needed. I wasn’t affair digging, I also don’t know why I feel guilty and feel the need … Continue reading

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Dr. Phil bullshit

***Child molestation and rape trigger warning.*** I’m down with some poison ivy. I don’t get it like a ‘normal person’. I get a small amount of the oil on me and I’m a blistered miserable mess for WEEKS. It’s painful, … Continue reading

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EMDR a year later.

I’m in a couple of EMDR groups on Facebook. Recent topics there got me thinking of where I am today with it. I’m pretty amazed at what EMDR did for me. I’m glad I did it, I’m proud of myself … Continue reading

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I don’t even know what to title this.

A quote I saw caused a pretty fierce face palm this past weekend. A jaw drop, a wide eyed gasp and a face palm that was a bit harder than it should’ve been. I did. I read it again. Then … Continue reading

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I went down activity lane

April 24th will be four years since discovering he had an affair. So I’m quickly approaching that mark. I don’t know. In those four years there’s been 4 therapists, a thousand books, articles, videos all laying down the 3-5 year … Continue reading

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Strange reaction.

I had such a weird reaction to something yesterday. Today I still feel a little off and I didn’t sleep much last night. I think I got about 2 hours total. I feel stupid for having this reaction. My first … Continue reading

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On this day four years ago…

Well, it was actually the 3rd. 9/3/2015. Why do dates stick in my head like glue? He took me to see A Walk in the Woods that night. We hadn’t seen a movie together in a long time. This one … Continue reading

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Session #2. What just happened?

I will probably write out these sessions, mainly because writing it out helps me look at it, and a year from now I’ll be curious where I will be and how I come out of all of this. She wants … Continue reading

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Session #1

This is the get know you session. During our time, she begins to highly recommend EMDR, and is telling me how it works. But as she went on telling me about it, she tells me that she does not feel … Continue reading

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